Wow...2 updates in one day. But I have a dilema. My ex-boyfriend and I are still friends (we live in the same city so we go out for coffee or watch a movie together about once a week). We were together for close to 5 years and for a while I was convinced that I'd found my 'right' person. But anyways, we broke up under somewhat unusual and difficult to deal with circumstances. So now, he's graduating in May and wants me to come to his Grad Ball which is at the end of May(he's graduating from Royal Military College). I know it will really mean a lot to him if I come because he wouldn't have asked otherwise. He's also moving to Victoria in June and this will probably be the last chance we have to spend time together before things really start to change. But his parents are going to be there and all his friends and I don't know if I'm the right person to accompany him. My worry is that it will set both of us back...we've been broken up for over a year and he was the hardest person I've ever had to let go of. I feel really strong and independent and happy with my life as a 'single girl'. So I don't know if going with him will be a good thing, I mean he's one of the most important people in my life and this is one of the most important events in his life, so I should be there, right? Or it might be counter-productive to us moving on from each other. I can see myself adopting the 'girlfriend image' for the weekend. I just don't know what to do. This past year I have really focused on making positive decisions for myself but I feel like I should make this decision for him. Ugggghhhh!